(Sorry Friends for the hiatus...........was trying to discover myself n some new ideas..........)
Before talking about Death, first I would like to explore and share ....What is LIFE?......'coz DEATH always comes after LIFE!!!
LIFE is living every moment of one's existence fully!!!!!
This does'nt mean that Life is hunky-dory, or like a sweet song you humm always.......
Life comes with its share of Ups and Downs.......
Enjoying every moment means enjoying the ups and downs of Life too.....
as Life is a gift GOD has given us and these joys and sorrows, ups and downs too are a part and parcel of our existence.
There is a famous saying,"An intellectual person enjoys sorrows in the same platform as joys and gives his fullest to both!"
Life is always uncertain........we donot know ,what will happen the next moment....., in the next hour , or 24 hrs. or even next month or year.
So , why not live as though there is no next.....or tommorrow for us.
Whatever is, ....is this time, .....the present moment!
Most of us are worried about what is going to happen in future, due to which we spoil our today and now!
What is DEATH?
Death is the end of our existence in this particular incarnation.
Death happens for the Body and not for our soul....... (as has been said by Lord Krishna too in the Bhagvad Geeta)
We ought to realise that this body is meant to be destroyed ultimately, for the soul soul to attain Mokshaa or move to another incarnation.
We donot know is what will happen after Death........but what we know , is what is to happen before death.........!!!!!
Surprised.........!!!!!
Coz I just said Life is uncertain.........
But, here I mean , that death is the end of our present existence, so why not live our life in such a manner that we utilise each moment iof ourLife or Being......fully!!!!
..........doing good deeds, fulfilling our responsibilities and duties, trying not to hurt others......, helping as many as one can ...as and when reqd.,........spreading smiles n happiness....., and many such things.......the list seems endless!!!
As was very well portrayed by Raj Kapoor, in the movie Shree 420, through this song, "kisi ki muskurahaton pe ho nissaar, kisi ka dard mil sake toh le udhaar, kisi ke vaastey ho tere dil mein pyaar............Jeenaa issi ka naam hai!!!!"
MEANS, LIVE FOR OTHERS!!!!!!
Once we live every moment of our life fully,. ........we are not afraid to DIE!!!
An intelligent person is always ready for death.
Death is inevitable............for one n all.......be it a king or beggar.....IT HAS TO COME!
Now or after sometime .......one never knows.
It never gives us time to think..... and if it is inevitable and common for all of us ......then why be afraid of it............rather it is a BOON , .......coz it gives us a chance n realisation to live fully!!!!!!
We ought to live life as if there is no Tommorrow!
So that , even after death, we remain alive in people's memories n thoughts through our good deeds and work!!!!
Many such examples .........Mother Teresa, Mahatma Gandhi, Nelson Mandela......etc. serve as inspirations.They lived for their ideals....... a simple life, depriving themselves of luxuries to see others happy........working for n serving mankind n people in the best manner!!!!
DEATH is Scary only for the Selfish..........those who merely exist.......they don't live life!!!!! They live only for themselves , and deprive themselves of the happiness to see others happy 'coz of them!
Those who are not aware of being the Gifted ones!!!!
The ones who God loves the most.........thats why we were born as Human beings!
A famous saying conveys the essence of living in simple words, "He, who is well prepared for Death, always lives every moment of his life to the Fullest!"
Here I would as well like to qoute a famous dialogue from the movie KAL HO NAA HO,
"Hanso, jeeo , muskurao........Kya pataa .......Kal ho naa ho!"
Try to put Smiles on other's faces.......this will give you lots of satisfaction..........TRY IT!!!!
If we recognise and accept change.......we'l face death bravely.......
When we were kids, our parents and grandparents were there.......
Now, as we are gradually advancing in age.......we are replacing our parents......our parents replacing our grandparents.......and our children are taking our place.
As Lord Krishna put it in Shrimad Bhagvat Gita, " This (Life n Death) is a Continuous Process."
Once we attain this realisation, the scare or fright of Death will disappear!!!
So Friends,.......
LIVE FULLY EVERY SECOND AND MINUTE OF YOUR LIFE, so that when the end comes........... WE ARE WELL-PREPARED !!!!
and not SCARED........
.......and we set examples for our coming generations!!!
Thanx for patiently reading thru these ideas of this Mind with Chemical Locha............ God Bless U all!!!
this is Smita signing off as of now .........to reconnect again ......soon..... :)
10th Feb. 2011
Thursday, February 10, 2011
Tuesday, July 6, 2010
The Magic of Love...............anyone believes in it today???
LOVE.....................
As soon as we hear about this magical word ............. the horses of our imagination start galloping...............
n I think this is a very natural n beautiful process!!!!
Love is such a beautiful feeling which starts in our Life as a Blessing as soon as we are born..............in the form of our Mother............she is the first one to teach n show us or rather shower lots n lots of Love!!!!!
Gradually as we grow up , Love comes through family.............parents, siblings, grandparents..........n extended family.
Our whole Childhood is showered upon and is full of Love!
But.......... as we grow up the feeling gets dampened ...........n distorted.
As grown ups.............how much Love do we show.............
Do we have the time even to tell our loved ones that " we love you" ????
We are running in this blind race ...................without realising that one day we'l be stranded!!!!! Standing ALONE!!!
All this Money, Success, Position, Status, Material Possessions etc. will be of no use!
Today daily newspapers, media etc. are full of reports of falling apart relationships............be it of children n parents; husband n wife; siblings...............etc.
The Best example that comes to my mind is that recent Gruesome n Coldblooded murder of a couple in AshokVihar by the girl Monica's Brother.................
The fault they had committed was , they believed in Love and the person..................the divine bond which a brother n sister have , between eachother since childhood.......................they could not suspect that coldblooded IDIOT.......(sorry to use that word but can't think of anything better)!!!!!
Its not a crime to choose a lifepartner of one's choice....................but it seems so that some backward n fanatic people are poisoning the minds of these young people so much so that they loose their sensitivity.........brains........humanity..........love ..........EVERYTHING!!!!!
Likewise Divorces have increased manifold as compared to previous years ................
Certain times one comes to read of really interesting reasons...............extramarital affairs being one of the major reason, non-compatibility another, ..................the list is infinite...............
In one's longing for lust n sex, some people forget to think about the other half.........n more important , the kids attached to that relationship!!!!!!!
Does anyone have an answer to my humble query..........What is the fault of those innocent n sweet souls who are equally affected???
Being totally self centred and selfish ............one partner goes into a sexual or an extramarital relationship..............reason or logic whatever be!!!........... the affected half walks out of the marriage.............files a divorce............n years pass by fighting with eachother in the Court of Law!
Did anyone think about those poor souls??
Their only fault is that, they were sent into the world by God, as a gift of your Love for eachother!!
So where does the love eventually go??
Or am I forced to believe that there is or was nothing called Love.............all that is or was ,.......
is simply LUST or crude SEX!!!!!
Please give it a Thought...........
Ask those people who due to some reason or the other have not got at all , or have been deprived off , this precious Gift of Love in their lives................
thousands of orphans in orphanages.........or elders abandoned in oldage homes.......... widows............. widowers................ or those who have not found n got love.............or the cruel hands of Destinyor Death has snatched them away....................the newspapers are full of obituaries.......... of old n young alike!!
Cherish Love............feel the Divine Magic.................feel like someone blessed...............
God showers Love in everyone's life in some or the other form ........... family, friends, spouses, siblings, kids, etc...............
Thank Him for his Divine Blessings..............instead of Cribbing for what we are deprived of ...........Thank for whatever one has!!!!!
Try to Forgive n forget n see the divine magic of Love spread happiness in our lives!
We just have to realise we are Blessed!!!!
I would like to conclude with a nice thought I happened to come across............... am trying to interpret it in this context............
"You must understand that even if just one of us, starts lighting dark lamps with the candle of Love and Happiness.................the result will be a chain of lighted lamps , who inturn will spread it ahead and then, there will be no room for Darkness"
So .................Thank God for his uncounted Love..............n value it!!!!!
Keep Smiling ...........
CHEERS
This is Smita.D.Kumar with a Mind full of chemical locha ............... and its wild set of thoughts and ideas!!!
7th July'2010
Delhi
As soon as we hear about this magical word ............. the horses of our imagination start galloping...............
n I think this is a very natural n beautiful process!!!!
Love is such a beautiful feeling which starts in our Life as a Blessing as soon as we are born..............in the form of our Mother............she is the first one to teach n show us or rather shower lots n lots of Love!!!!!
Gradually as we grow up , Love comes through family.............parents, siblings, grandparents..........n extended family.
Our whole Childhood is showered upon and is full of Love!
But.......... as we grow up the feeling gets dampened ...........n distorted.
As grown ups.............how much Love do we show.............
Do we have the time even to tell our loved ones that " we love you" ????
We are running in this blind race ...................without realising that one day we'l be stranded!!!!! Standing ALONE!!!
All this Money, Success, Position, Status, Material Possessions etc. will be of no use!
Today daily newspapers, media etc. are full of reports of falling apart relationships............be it of children n parents; husband n wife; siblings...............etc.
The Best example that comes to my mind is that recent Gruesome n Coldblooded murder of a couple in AshokVihar by the girl Monica's Brother.................
The fault they had committed was , they believed in Love and the person..................the divine bond which a brother n sister have , between eachother since childhood.......................they could not suspect that coldblooded IDIOT.......(sorry to use that word but can't think of anything better)!!!!!
Its not a crime to choose a lifepartner of one's choice....................but it seems so that some backward n fanatic people are poisoning the minds of these young people so much so that they loose their sensitivity.........brains........humanity..........love ..........EVERYTHING!!!!!
Likewise Divorces have increased manifold as compared to previous years ................
Certain times one comes to read of really interesting reasons...............extramarital affairs being one of the major reason, non-compatibility another, ..................the list is infinite...............
In one's longing for lust n sex, some people forget to think about the other half.........n more important , the kids attached to that relationship!!!!!!!
Does anyone have an answer to my humble query..........What is the fault of those innocent n sweet souls who are equally affected???
Being totally self centred and selfish ............one partner goes into a sexual or an extramarital relationship..............reason or logic whatever be!!!........... the affected half walks out of the marriage.............files a divorce............n years pass by fighting with eachother in the Court of Law!
Did anyone think about those poor souls??
Their only fault is that, they were sent into the world by God, as a gift of your Love for eachother!!
So where does the love eventually go??
Or am I forced to believe that there is or was nothing called Love.............all that is or was ,.......
is simply LUST or crude SEX!!!!!
Please give it a Thought...........
Ask those people who due to some reason or the other have not got at all , or have been deprived off , this precious Gift of Love in their lives................
thousands of orphans in orphanages.........or elders abandoned in oldage homes.......... widows............. widowers................ or those who have not found n got love.............or the cruel hands of Destinyor Death has snatched them away....................the newspapers are full of obituaries.......... of old n young alike!!
Cherish Love............feel the Divine Magic.................feel like someone blessed...............
God showers Love in everyone's life in some or the other form ........... family, friends, spouses, siblings, kids, etc...............
Thank Him for his Divine Blessings..............instead of Cribbing for what we are deprived of ...........Thank for whatever one has!!!!!
Try to Forgive n forget n see the divine magic of Love spread happiness in our lives!
We just have to realise we are Blessed!!!!
I would like to conclude with a nice thought I happened to come across............... am trying to interpret it in this context............
"You must understand that even if just one of us, starts lighting dark lamps with the candle of Love and Happiness.................the result will be a chain of lighted lamps , who inturn will spread it ahead and then, there will be no room for Darkness"
So .................Thank God for his uncounted Love..............n value it!!!!!
Keep Smiling ...........
CHEERS
This is Smita.D.Kumar with a Mind full of chemical locha ............... and its wild set of thoughts and ideas!!!
7th July'2010
Delhi
Monday, March 22, 2010
DIMINISHING.......LOVE.........IN TODAY'S TIMES.........PLS. LEND A THOUGHT
Sorry Friends for the long slumber..............Was tied up with certain problems and also trying to figure out .....what to write............I am sharing my thoughts on a very common topic though quite uncommonly understood!!!!
LOVE ......... How many of us know how to define Love actually ?
Each person differs with his/her perspective regarding LOVE.......For some, love means parents,.....for some family, ......for some spouse and marriage.....
For some, love means physical contact....... for others, love is all about sexual n physical involvement....... For some Love is giving and taking expensive gifts.........for others maybe love is a showoff........,
For some, it is only a simple portrayal of emotions.......be it only a single rose given by the one who loves you, or..........just a simple sms or just........
a naughty wink!!!
Everyone has some or the other view but..............in today's time the value and place for love is gradually decreasing .........rather diminishing........
I had read somewhere , "Love is to give whatever you have......without expecting anything in return ! "
How many of us in today's setup, follow or believe in this saying??
Today, everyone wants to have........no one wants to give.......the expectations have risen sooooo much that love now is measured in material terms..........
"oh, how sweet of u.........u'v brought me a solitaire ring/ necklace "And if the same person brings a simple rose or a bunch of flowers only..............the reaction would be........."arre you've brought just flowers......no gift ??
.......Pataa hai Last week Mrs. Sethi's husband gifted her a diamond necklace on their anniversary."
"Dad, you didnt buy a PSP or a Hi-Tech mobile for me.........just brought a tshirt thats it!!! It was my birthday today? i could have taken a tshirt anytime.........you could have bought me something nice..........What will I show my friends.........what will they say?"
........n maybe a fight ensues.........
Irrespective of the fact, that it was their special day (anniversary/birthday) and they would have shared certain nice moments and memories together...........they ended up sharing a bitter taste of accusations and allegations!!!!!!
Nowadays this is very common ...............which eventually ends up in distaste,
then gradually drifting apart of relationships.........
In marriages, ...........some end up in extramarital entanglements and some in divorces!!!
In general relationships, people drift away........avoid eachother........start to drink or fag etc. etc.
WHY DO WE FAIL TO VALUE RELATIONSHIPS........ THE EMOTIONS OF THE PERSON CLOSE TO US ........FOR WHOM WE AND OUR HAPPINESS IS IMPORTANT?
WHY CANT WE BE HAPPY WITH WHAT WE GET?
WILL EXCESSIVE MATERIALISM LEAD US TO SUSTAINANCE OR BREAKING OF RELATIONSHIPS?
WHERE HAS SELFLESS LOVE GONE?
DO WE GIVE AMPLE TIME N EMOTIONS TO OUR LOVED ONES?
I remember as a kid, my Nanaji used to say, " A gift comes to you trembling"
Unable to understand the meaning , a kid I was, I asked "how"........... to which he explained , "A gift portrays the emotions and love of the Giver.........n trembles whether you'll accept it nicely or not"
He used to teach us to value people, their emotions and love and not the monetary value of the person!!!!
What is permanent is the sweetness n warmth of relationships and Love..........all other things are temporary.
Coming back to Love...........How many of us express Love and emotions in our day-to-day life and routines?
Just saying "I Love You, for what you are and you mean a lot to me" is so difficult nowadays to the people in your daily life..........be it your spouses, your kids, your parents, siblings etc. ...........
People nowadays are so busy ............just running , running and............running after Money , Power and Fame. Seldom care for any emotional factor involved........ Materialism is the only one factor ruling!!!
Better were the times when families used to stay together in compact houses . share the joys and sorrows together..........Nowadays , the advancements and latest technology have brought in facilities and hi-tech living where in each bedroom one has a separate personal theatre system but somewhere..........relationships and love is dying a slow death!!
The parents donot know where their kids are..... in which corner of the house .....doing what........the wife doesnt know when the husband will return .........and viceversa.
Though the standards of living have increased.......... the emotional attachments are decreasing!!
But the EXPECTATIONS are increasing...........which leads to gross disappointments and dissentment.
Again I would like to repeat the thought I stated earlier that nowadays what to get is only the concern n not what can I give!!!
I would like to share my thought by recalling a couplet said by Bahadur Shah Zafar, "Umrey daraaz maang kar laaye char din; do arzoo mein beet gaye, do uske pooraa hone ke intezaar mein." (Our life consists of four days, two( half of it) were wasted in expecting and the rest two in wishing to see their fulfillment)..........
where did the person get a chance to enjoy the beauty of Love......which he lost in the shadow of his unrealistic Expectations.
'LOVE IS A GREAT POWER, BUT IT TAKES POWER TO HAVE PURE LOVE..........Dont expect LOVE and ATTENTION, instead Give it!!!! '
PURE LOVE is nothing but expressing our feelings selflessly............ Just doing certain little little gestures.......which make the other person feel special irrespective of any special days.......like birthdays or anniversaries..............make each day a special day for you and your loved ones.
Sending a nice n sweet sms, arranging a special candlelight dinner , a surprise gift , a bunch of flowers or just a single rose , or even a simple phone call ...........saying "when are you coming , I'm missing you dear" or "was just thinking of you, have you had your Lunch , ...will wait for you" ...........etc ....can do the MAGIC ......
which even the most expensive thing cannot........
'coz emotions have no moneyvalue..........they are PRICELESS !!!!
Treat yourself as a lucky n privileged person if God has given you that someone to care for in your life !
Accept that someone as he/she is because " Love is the ability to see beyond the faults of one another and to discover the beauties of his/her Heart !!!
"Happiness and Love is not in having what you want.......... but Wanting what you Have!"
Recently I came across something interesting , "A successful Marriage depends not only on finding the right person , but, being the Right Person."
"You Love, not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing the imperfect person perfectly!!! ( by Sam Keen)
Life is all about appreciating Love and enjoying little little moments of happiness with your loved ones........
It can be ...... having one Naariyal paani together, or, sharing a plate of Golgappe , or , just fighting for a share in that one piece of chocolate , or, having a stroll hand-in-hand under the moonlight, or , just sitting on a seabeach , or having bhelpuri on a rainy day................... or getting half wet and still sharing one umbrella in the rain despite knowing that the second one is there in the car............Love is to Cherish what one has!!
LOVE IS JUST ABOUT ENJOYING TOGETHERNESS!!!
IT IS THE KEY THAT CAN OPEN EVEN THE HARDEST HEART!
LOVE IS NEVER WASTED..........IT COMES BACK TO YOU A HUNDRED TIMES OVER ....... AS IT IS THE ESSENCE OF EVERYTHING BEAUTIFUL , THE FORCE BEHIND EVERYTHING WONDERFUL!!! LOVE IS MAGICAL, IT IS A LANGUAGE THE DEAF CAN HEAR , A SONG THE CRIPPLE CAN DANCE TO AND A SUNSET THE BLIND CAN SEE!! "
SO MY FRIENDS,
`LET LOVE BLOSSOM IN YOUR HEART ! LET LOVE GRAB YOUR HEART AND INFUSE IT , WITH ALL THE ZEST AND JOY FOR LIFE, LOVE HAS TO GIVE TO YOU!!!!
AS , THE MORE YOU GIVE...........THE MORE YOU GET IS THE BASIC FUNDA OF LOVE !!! AND A LOVING SOUL IS A LOVED SOUL !!!!
AND I WOULD LIKE TO CONCLUDE WITH A POPULAR SAYING "GOD IS LOVE , AND LOVE IS GOD "
So, DISCOVER THE MAGIC OF LOVE,
..... AND SAIL IN THE OCEAN OF LOVE AND AFFECTION !
COZ LOVE CAN NEVER BE PLANNED NOR DOES IT HAPPEN FOR A REASON OR LOGIC; BUT WHEN LOVE IS REAL , IT BECOMES YOUR PLAN FOR LIFE AND REASON FOR LIVING!!!!!
This is Smita.d.Kumar , yet again with her weird set of fundas n ideas and a Mind with Chemical Locha!!!
(PS : Do post in your comments and feedback)
LOVE ......... How many of us know how to define Love actually ?
Each person differs with his/her perspective regarding LOVE.......For some, love means parents,.....for some family, ......for some spouse and marriage.....
For some, love means physical contact....... for others, love is all about sexual n physical involvement....... For some Love is giving and taking expensive gifts.........for others maybe love is a showoff........,
For some, it is only a simple portrayal of emotions.......be it only a single rose given by the one who loves you, or..........just a simple sms or just........
a naughty wink!!!
Everyone has some or the other view but..............in today's time the value and place for love is gradually decreasing .........rather diminishing........
I had read somewhere , "Love is to give whatever you have......without expecting anything in return ! "
How many of us in today's setup, follow or believe in this saying??
Today, everyone wants to have........no one wants to give.......the expectations have risen sooooo much that love now is measured in material terms..........
"oh, how sweet of u.........u'v brought me a solitaire ring/ necklace "And if the same person brings a simple rose or a bunch of flowers only..............the reaction would be........."arre you've brought just flowers......no gift ??
.......Pataa hai Last week Mrs. Sethi's husband gifted her a diamond necklace on their anniversary."
"Dad, you didnt buy a PSP or a Hi-Tech mobile for me.........just brought a tshirt thats it!!! It was my birthday today? i could have taken a tshirt anytime.........you could have bought me something nice..........What will I show my friends.........what will they say?"
........n maybe a fight ensues.........
Irrespective of the fact, that it was their special day (anniversary/birthday) and they would have shared certain nice moments and memories together...........they ended up sharing a bitter taste of accusations and allegations!!!!!!
Nowadays this is very common ...............which eventually ends up in distaste,
then gradually drifting apart of relationships.........
In marriages, ...........some end up in extramarital entanglements and some in divorces!!!
In general relationships, people drift away........avoid eachother........start to drink or fag etc. etc.
WHY DO WE FAIL TO VALUE RELATIONSHIPS........ THE EMOTIONS OF THE PERSON CLOSE TO US ........FOR WHOM WE AND OUR HAPPINESS IS IMPORTANT?
WHY CANT WE BE HAPPY WITH WHAT WE GET?
WILL EXCESSIVE MATERIALISM LEAD US TO SUSTAINANCE OR BREAKING OF RELATIONSHIPS?
WHERE HAS SELFLESS LOVE GONE?
DO WE GIVE AMPLE TIME N EMOTIONS TO OUR LOVED ONES?
I remember as a kid, my Nanaji used to say, " A gift comes to you trembling"
Unable to understand the meaning , a kid I was, I asked "how"........... to which he explained , "A gift portrays the emotions and love of the Giver.........n trembles whether you'll accept it nicely or not"
He used to teach us to value people, their emotions and love and not the monetary value of the person!!!!
What is permanent is the sweetness n warmth of relationships and Love..........all other things are temporary.
Coming back to Love...........How many of us express Love and emotions in our day-to-day life and routines?
Just saying "I Love You, for what you are and you mean a lot to me" is so difficult nowadays to the people in your daily life..........be it your spouses, your kids, your parents, siblings etc. ...........
People nowadays are so busy ............just running , running and............running after Money , Power and Fame. Seldom care for any emotional factor involved........ Materialism is the only one factor ruling!!!
Better were the times when families used to stay together in compact houses . share the joys and sorrows together..........Nowadays , the advancements and latest technology have brought in facilities and hi-tech living where in each bedroom one has a separate personal theatre system but somewhere..........relationships and love is dying a slow death!!
The parents donot know where their kids are..... in which corner of the house .....doing what........the wife doesnt know when the husband will return .........and viceversa.
Though the standards of living have increased.......... the emotional attachments are decreasing!!
But the EXPECTATIONS are increasing...........which leads to gross disappointments and dissentment.
Again I would like to repeat the thought I stated earlier that nowadays what to get is only the concern n not what can I give!!!
I would like to share my thought by recalling a couplet said by Bahadur Shah Zafar, "Umrey daraaz maang kar laaye char din; do arzoo mein beet gaye, do uske pooraa hone ke intezaar mein." (Our life consists of four days, two( half of it) were wasted in expecting and the rest two in wishing to see their fulfillment)..........
where did the person get a chance to enjoy the beauty of Love......which he lost in the shadow of his unrealistic Expectations.
'LOVE IS A GREAT POWER, BUT IT TAKES POWER TO HAVE PURE LOVE..........Dont expect LOVE and ATTENTION, instead Give it!!!! '
PURE LOVE is nothing but expressing our feelings selflessly............ Just doing certain little little gestures.......which make the other person feel special irrespective of any special days.......like birthdays or anniversaries..............make each day a special day for you and your loved ones.
Sending a nice n sweet sms, arranging a special candlelight dinner , a surprise gift , a bunch of flowers or just a single rose , or even a simple phone call ...........saying "when are you coming , I'm missing you dear" or "was just thinking of you, have you had your Lunch , ...will wait for you" ...........etc ....can do the MAGIC ......
which even the most expensive thing cannot........
'coz emotions have no moneyvalue..........they are PRICELESS !!!!
Treat yourself as a lucky n privileged person if God has given you that someone to care for in your life !
Accept that someone as he/she is because " Love is the ability to see beyond the faults of one another and to discover the beauties of his/her Heart !!!
"Happiness and Love is not in having what you want.......... but Wanting what you Have!"
Recently I came across something interesting , "A successful Marriage depends not only on finding the right person , but, being the Right Person."
"You Love, not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing the imperfect person perfectly!!! ( by Sam Keen)
Life is all about appreciating Love and enjoying little little moments of happiness with your loved ones........
It can be ...... having one Naariyal paani together, or, sharing a plate of Golgappe , or , just fighting for a share in that one piece of chocolate , or, having a stroll hand-in-hand under the moonlight, or , just sitting on a seabeach , or having bhelpuri on a rainy day................... or getting half wet and still sharing one umbrella in the rain despite knowing that the second one is there in the car............Love is to Cherish what one has!!
LOVE IS JUST ABOUT ENJOYING TOGETHERNESS!!!
IT IS THE KEY THAT CAN OPEN EVEN THE HARDEST HEART!
LOVE IS NEVER WASTED..........IT COMES BACK TO YOU A HUNDRED TIMES OVER ....... AS IT IS THE ESSENCE OF EVERYTHING BEAUTIFUL , THE FORCE BEHIND EVERYTHING WONDERFUL!!! LOVE IS MAGICAL, IT IS A LANGUAGE THE DEAF CAN HEAR , A SONG THE CRIPPLE CAN DANCE TO AND A SUNSET THE BLIND CAN SEE!! "
SO MY FRIENDS,
`LET LOVE BLOSSOM IN YOUR HEART ! LET LOVE GRAB YOUR HEART AND INFUSE IT , WITH ALL THE ZEST AND JOY FOR LIFE, LOVE HAS TO GIVE TO YOU!!!!
AS , THE MORE YOU GIVE...........THE MORE YOU GET IS THE BASIC FUNDA OF LOVE !!! AND A LOVING SOUL IS A LOVED SOUL !!!!
AND I WOULD LIKE TO CONCLUDE WITH A POPULAR SAYING "GOD IS LOVE , AND LOVE IS GOD "
So, DISCOVER THE MAGIC OF LOVE,
..... AND SAIL IN THE OCEAN OF LOVE AND AFFECTION !
COZ LOVE CAN NEVER BE PLANNED NOR DOES IT HAPPEN FOR A REASON OR LOGIC; BUT WHEN LOVE IS REAL , IT BECOMES YOUR PLAN FOR LIFE AND REASON FOR LIVING!!!!!
This is Smita.d.Kumar , yet again with her weird set of fundas n ideas and a Mind with Chemical Locha!!!
(PS : Do post in your comments and feedback)
Saturday, January 9, 2010
Chivalry..........to be or ....not to be
Chivalry..........to be there or not?..........Lend a thought
Hi Friends,
Would like to share a few thoughts which struck my mind today while watching a certain T.V program.............
In Today's times , where Equality of genders holds importance, is Chivalry towards the fairer sex important?
In older times, say, the start of the 20th century, when a lady entered the room , the gentlemen stood up in chivalry, pulled out a chair for her, held the door open for her, etc....... This was a part of the cultured society norms.
Even the ancient Indian Culture advocates respect and care for the fairer sex, in various scriptures and books .
Nowadays , with the women's liberation movement , and the Equality clause coming into being, these gestures are going amiss.
Often we come across such examples.......... the most common being the Metro........where men have forgotten their basics even........ whether it is a lady, an elderly respected citizen - (be it male or female), a pregnant woman, someone with a child.......... noone has the basic manners even to vacate a seat they occupy or even offer one.......!!!!!
Another very common example on our roads is, someone struggling to cross the road , but noone stopping the car to facilitate or allow him/her to do so............ we are just running madly in the day - to- day race. No one has the time or basic manners or I would like to use the word ...........Empathy to do so.
Today , as respected and responsible citizens , do we have the basic courtesy to stop when the Traffic signal turns red ......... leave aside yellow, when we actually are supposed to stop?
My son asked me once, " Mom why do you stop, when others after you are just rushing away and not paying heed that the light has turned Red? why do you need to stop?"
To which I answered," Son, If we as sensible, responsible and literate citizens of the country , donot abide by rules, how do we expect illiterates or the others to.........and this leads to accidents and the so called increased trend of roadrages or roadfights nowadays . Plus, it is our duty to set an example rather than follow the wrong mob!!"
Do you all think this is right what I said?
What are we passing on to our youngsters, in the name of values and culture?
Just the Hi Dad culture.......... where we will see insensitive citizens in future , who'll mess their lives with incidents like the infamous BMW case,or the Jessica Lal case or many others which have followed or will follow!
I am sincerely not against it (Hi culture) , but, these certain basics are the very elementary things to learn n practise.
Today , they are seeing us do the same.......... so they are learning these insensitive values............
How many of us offer a seat to someone more deserving , at public places?
How many of us help a blind person cross the road , despite being busy or in a hurry?
How many of us lend a helping hand to someone in need?
How many of us spend time with the elder generations at our own homes ? .......... they are the ones who have brought us to this level of success where we are today and they just need a little bit of attention and care in the dusk of their lives when they have slowed down......
Have we forgotten that we too will be or may be in such situations someday in future..........so what are we sowing for our future............... INSENSITIVITY????
Coming back to our initial thought................. Chivalry and basic manners...........
Specifically addressed to my male counterparts............ I would like to help you win the hearts of your lovely ladies........ be it girlfriends, or wives, or someone you plan to woo..............
Ladies are always impressed with guys, who are chivalrous and courteous, and have the extra dash of manners, over and above the so-called machoism, they are supposed to be proud of............
Nowadays, females give a lot of importance to the inner qualities you all possess , while assessing someone.......
Though she may be equal on the professional front , still if you show little acts of chivalry ....... you earn a respect in her eyes.
Chivalrous acts like pulling the chair for a female, offering a seat at a public place to someone worthy or in need, humanly acts of helping someone in need (not monetarily but physically), holding the door open to the lady (instead of banging it on her face when she is walking behind you) , showing little-little acts of care........ asking her if she needs a glass of water etc.............. will earn you respect and appreciation, not only on the professional but the personal front too!
On the personal front, it will add to the love, care and sensitivity factor and will be reciprocated equally or rather even more from your female counterparts!
So Go ahead and Win appreciation and hearts, of the ones you all Love!!!
And more so, Be live examples for the generations ahead so that they too respect you all , to impart good values and culture to them!
this is Smita.D.Kumar( Anupam Sinha's friend)
signing off......
again with my weird set of ideas from ......
a mind with chemical Locha
Hi Friends,
Would like to share a few thoughts which struck my mind today while watching a certain T.V program.............
In Today's times , where Equality of genders holds importance, is Chivalry towards the fairer sex important?
In older times, say, the start of the 20th century, when a lady entered the room , the gentlemen stood up in chivalry, pulled out a chair for her, held the door open for her, etc....... This was a part of the cultured society norms.
Even the ancient Indian Culture advocates respect and care for the fairer sex, in various scriptures and books .
Nowadays , with the women's liberation movement , and the Equality clause coming into being, these gestures are going amiss.
Often we come across such examples.......... the most common being the Metro........where men have forgotten their basics even........ whether it is a lady, an elderly respected citizen - (be it male or female), a pregnant woman, someone with a child.......... noone has the basic manners even to vacate a seat they occupy or even offer one.......!!!!!
Another very common example on our roads is, someone struggling to cross the road , but noone stopping the car to facilitate or allow him/her to do so............ we are just running madly in the day - to- day race. No one has the time or basic manners or I would like to use the word ...........Empathy to do so.
Today , as respected and responsible citizens , do we have the basic courtesy to stop when the Traffic signal turns red ......... leave aside yellow, when we actually are supposed to stop?
My son asked me once, " Mom why do you stop, when others after you are just rushing away and not paying heed that the light has turned Red? why do you need to stop?"
To which I answered," Son, If we as sensible, responsible and literate citizens of the country , donot abide by rules, how do we expect illiterates or the others to.........and this leads to accidents and the so called increased trend of roadrages or roadfights nowadays . Plus, it is our duty to set an example rather than follow the wrong mob!!"
Do you all think this is right what I said?
What are we passing on to our youngsters, in the name of values and culture?
Just the Hi Dad culture.......... where we will see insensitive citizens in future , who'll mess their lives with incidents like the infamous BMW case,or the Jessica Lal case or many others which have followed or will follow!
I am sincerely not against it (Hi culture) , but, these certain basics are the very elementary things to learn n practise.
Today , they are seeing us do the same.......... so they are learning these insensitive values............
How many of us offer a seat to someone more deserving , at public places?
How many of us help a blind person cross the road , despite being busy or in a hurry?
How many of us lend a helping hand to someone in need?
How many of us spend time with the elder generations at our own homes ? .......... they are the ones who have brought us to this level of success where we are today and they just need a little bit of attention and care in the dusk of their lives when they have slowed down......
Have we forgotten that we too will be or may be in such situations someday in future..........so what are we sowing for our future............... INSENSITIVITY????
Coming back to our initial thought................. Chivalry and basic manners...........
Specifically addressed to my male counterparts............ I would like to help you win the hearts of your lovely ladies........ be it girlfriends, or wives, or someone you plan to woo..............
Ladies are always impressed with guys, who are chivalrous and courteous, and have the extra dash of manners, over and above the so-called machoism, they are supposed to be proud of............
Nowadays, females give a lot of importance to the inner qualities you all possess , while assessing someone.......
Though she may be equal on the professional front , still if you show little acts of chivalry ....... you earn a respect in her eyes.
Chivalrous acts like pulling the chair for a female, offering a seat at a public place to someone worthy or in need, humanly acts of helping someone in need (not monetarily but physically), holding the door open to the lady (instead of banging it on her face when she is walking behind you) , showing little-little acts of care........ asking her if she needs a glass of water etc.............. will earn you respect and appreciation, not only on the professional but the personal front too!
On the personal front, it will add to the love, care and sensitivity factor and will be reciprocated equally or rather even more from your female counterparts!
So Go ahead and Win appreciation and hearts, of the ones you all Love!!!
And more so, Be live examples for the generations ahead so that they too respect you all , to impart good values and culture to them!
this is Smita.D.Kumar( Anupam Sinha's friend)
signing off......
again with my weird set of ideas from ......
a mind with chemical Locha
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