Sorry Friends for the long slumber..............Was tied up with certain problems and also trying to figure out .....what to write............I am sharing my thoughts on a very common topic though quite uncommonly understood!!!!
LOVE ......... How many of us know how to define Love actually ?
Each person differs with his/her perspective regarding LOVE.......For some, love means parents,.....for some family, ......for some spouse and marriage.....
For some, love means physical contact....... for others, love is all about sexual n physical involvement....... For some Love is giving and taking expensive gifts.........for others maybe love is a showoff........,
For some, it is only a simple portrayal of emotions.......be it only a single rose given by the one who loves you, or..........just a simple sms or just........
a naughty wink!!!
Everyone has some or the other view but..............in today's time the value and place for love is gradually decreasing .........rather diminishing........
I had read somewhere , "Love is to give whatever you have......without expecting anything in return ! "
How many of us in today's setup, follow or believe in this saying??
Today, everyone wants to have........no one wants to give.......the expectations have risen sooooo much that love now is measured in material terms..........
"oh, how sweet of u.........u'v brought me a solitaire ring/ necklace "And if the same person brings a simple rose or a bunch of flowers only..............the reaction would be........."arre you've brought just flowers......no gift ??
.......Pataa hai Last week Mrs. Sethi's husband gifted her a diamond necklace on their anniversary."
"Dad, you didnt buy a PSP or a Hi-Tech mobile for me.........just brought a tshirt thats it!!! It was my birthday today? i could have taken a tshirt anytime.........you could have bought me something nice..........What will I show my friends.........what will they say?"
........n maybe a fight ensues.........
Irrespective of the fact, that it was their special day (anniversary/birthday) and they would have shared certain nice moments and memories together...........they ended up sharing a bitter taste of accusations and allegations!!!!!!
Nowadays this is very common ...............which eventually ends up in distaste,
then gradually drifting apart of relationships.........
In marriages, ...........some end up in extramarital entanglements and some in divorces!!!
In general relationships, people drift away........avoid eachother........start to drink or fag etc. etc.
WHY DO WE FAIL TO VALUE RELATIONSHIPS........ THE EMOTIONS OF THE PERSON CLOSE TO US ........FOR WHOM WE AND OUR HAPPINESS IS IMPORTANT?
WHY CANT WE BE HAPPY WITH WHAT WE GET?
WILL EXCESSIVE MATERIALISM LEAD US TO SUSTAINANCE OR BREAKING OF RELATIONSHIPS?
WHERE HAS SELFLESS LOVE GONE?
DO WE GIVE AMPLE TIME N EMOTIONS TO OUR LOVED ONES?
I remember as a kid, my Nanaji used to say, " A gift comes to you trembling"
Unable to understand the meaning , a kid I was, I asked "how"........... to which he explained , "A gift portrays the emotions and love of the Giver.........n trembles whether you'll accept it nicely or not"
He used to teach us to value people, their emotions and love and not the monetary value of the person!!!!
What is permanent is the sweetness n warmth of relationships and Love..........all other things are temporary.
Coming back to Love...........How many of us express Love and emotions in our day-to-day life and routines?
Just saying "I Love You, for what you are and you mean a lot to me" is so difficult nowadays to the people in your daily life..........be it your spouses, your kids, your parents, siblings etc. ...........
People nowadays are so busy ............just running , running and............running after Money , Power and Fame. Seldom care for any emotional factor involved........ Materialism is the only one factor ruling!!!
Better were the times when families used to stay together in compact houses . share the joys and sorrows together..........Nowadays , the advancements and latest technology have brought in facilities and hi-tech living where in each bedroom one has a separate personal theatre system but somewhere..........relationships and love is dying a slow death!!
The parents donot know where their kids are..... in which corner of the house .....doing what........the wife doesnt know when the husband will return .........and viceversa.
Though the standards of living have increased.......... the emotional attachments are decreasing!!
But the EXPECTATIONS are increasing...........which leads to gross disappointments and dissentment.
Again I would like to repeat the thought I stated earlier that nowadays what to get is only the concern n not what can I give!!!
I would like to share my thought by recalling a couplet said by Bahadur Shah Zafar, "Umrey daraaz maang kar laaye char din; do arzoo mein beet gaye, do uske pooraa hone ke intezaar mein." (Our life consists of four days, two( half of it) were wasted in expecting and the rest two in wishing to see their fulfillment)..........
where did the person get a chance to enjoy the beauty of Love......which he lost in the shadow of his unrealistic Expectations.
'LOVE IS A GREAT POWER, BUT IT TAKES POWER TO HAVE PURE LOVE..........Dont expect LOVE and ATTENTION, instead Give it!!!! '
PURE LOVE is nothing but expressing our feelings selflessly............ Just doing certain little little gestures.......which make the other person feel special irrespective of any special days.......like birthdays or anniversaries..............make each day a special day for you and your loved ones.
Sending a nice n sweet sms, arranging a special candlelight dinner , a surprise gift , a bunch of flowers or just a single rose , or even a simple phone call ...........saying "when are you coming , I'm missing you dear" or "was just thinking of you, have you had your Lunch , ...will wait for you" ...........etc ....can do the MAGIC ......
which even the most expensive thing cannot........
'coz emotions have no moneyvalue..........they are PRICELESS !!!!
Treat yourself as a lucky n privileged person if God has given you that someone to care for in your life !
Accept that someone as he/she is because " Love is the ability to see beyond the faults of one another and to discover the beauties of his/her Heart !!!
"Happiness and Love is not in having what you want.......... but Wanting what you Have!"
Recently I came across something interesting , "A successful Marriage depends not only on finding the right person , but, being the Right Person."
"You Love, not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing the imperfect person perfectly!!! ( by Sam Keen)
Life is all about appreciating Love and enjoying little little moments of happiness with your loved ones........
It can be ...... having one Naariyal paani together, or, sharing a plate of Golgappe , or , just fighting for a share in that one piece of chocolate , or, having a stroll hand-in-hand under the moonlight, or , just sitting on a seabeach , or having bhelpuri on a rainy day................... or getting half wet and still sharing one umbrella in the rain despite knowing that the second one is there in the car............Love is to Cherish what one has!!
LOVE IS JUST ABOUT ENJOYING TOGETHERNESS!!!
IT IS THE KEY THAT CAN OPEN EVEN THE HARDEST HEART!
LOVE IS NEVER WASTED..........IT COMES BACK TO YOU A HUNDRED TIMES OVER ....... AS IT IS THE ESSENCE OF EVERYTHING BEAUTIFUL , THE FORCE BEHIND EVERYTHING WONDERFUL!!! LOVE IS MAGICAL, IT IS A LANGUAGE THE DEAF CAN HEAR , A SONG THE CRIPPLE CAN DANCE TO AND A SUNSET THE BLIND CAN SEE!! "
SO MY FRIENDS,
`LET LOVE BLOSSOM IN YOUR HEART ! LET LOVE GRAB YOUR HEART AND INFUSE IT , WITH ALL THE ZEST AND JOY FOR LIFE, LOVE HAS TO GIVE TO YOU!!!!
AS , THE MORE YOU GIVE...........THE MORE YOU GET IS THE BASIC FUNDA OF LOVE !!! AND A LOVING SOUL IS A LOVED SOUL !!!!
AND I WOULD LIKE TO CONCLUDE WITH A POPULAR SAYING "GOD IS LOVE , AND LOVE IS GOD "
So, DISCOVER THE MAGIC OF LOVE,
..... AND SAIL IN THE OCEAN OF LOVE AND AFFECTION !
COZ LOVE CAN NEVER BE PLANNED NOR DOES IT HAPPEN FOR A REASON OR LOGIC; BUT WHEN LOVE IS REAL , IT BECOMES YOUR PLAN FOR LIFE AND REASON FOR LIVING!!!!!
This is Smita.d.Kumar , yet again with her weird set of fundas n ideas and a Mind with Chemical Locha!!!
(PS : Do post in your comments and feedback)
Monday, March 22, 2010
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